For a busy person on the go, it seems ideal, but the reality is people can be extremely deceiving behind a profile. I mean, there were men that didn't even have their height posted, what sort of a setup is that?
So, is lying the answer? My friend Chelsea G. Summers, who is 54, is firmly in favor of skimming a couple of years off one's age, though always coming right with current photos. Like me, she straddles the digital divide; we recall a time before DOS, but not a lot of relationship with no click and beep of a modem. "I'd call it a slow attrition of diminishing returns," Chelsea said about dating in NYC. "I feel as if I make out with a guy and tell a guy I'd like to enjoy sexual congress, he should be stoked. I had about a year-long run of being semi-seduced by men to have them hightail it, like scared little bunnies. It was making me feel like crap, so I went to Europe, specifically Stockholm, and immediately got laid. "
Even today, online dating isn't universally regarded as a positive activity--a significant minority of the public views online dating skeptically. At the same time, public attitudes towards online dating have grown more positive in the last eight years:
I didn't mind taking the initiative to message guys I was interested in, asking about their favorites or hobbies. I got responses 60 percent of the time. When men messaged me, I'd only respond to people who asked about my interests - travelling, cooking and reading.
Know what you need and use your profile blurb to get it: If you're on Tinder for knacks, say so. If you're there to get a critical thing, say exactly that. This way you're more likely to attract like minds and filter out those whose priorities don't align. Don't waste your time .
Moffitt agrees. "If you're looking for a long-term relationship, go on a pay site because then you know those people have committed to making the investment in finding that match for themselves," she says. (I liken it to paying pay at nightclubs: those who do are making an extra effort to be there. It probably says a lot about me that when I'm looking at cover closer to $20 compared to 5, I walk into the hole-in-the-wall pub next door. .
The women you meet in clubs and the girls you meet online are very different. Many women you meet in clubs have an expensive lifestyle and they might expect to be "wined and dined" as you state. On dating websites, 80% of the women are down-to-earth Indonesians who have jobs/occupations and are just searching for a boyfriend.